Celebrating ALL of you for Women's History Month!

Happy Women’s History Month!

 “Here's To Strong Women, May We Know Them May We Be Them May We Raise Them.”  We see that quote every year for women’s history month. It’s almost an unwritten rule.

Being strong is beautiful , courageous and necessary. Some days we are that strong woman but, should that be the yearly celebration?

..and yes, I too, want to know a strong woman because we all need that in our village.  Every year we want to celebrate the strong woman. But, what if that year wasn’t your year to feel strong? 

We are not that far into the year of 2023 but, life be lif’n ! 

What if this year for you  was the year of  unlearning ,  the year  of saying “no”  more, the year “I  learned through some pain” , the year of  “I don’t have it altogether",  the  year of “girl you survived !!” , “girl you figured it out” ,
“Girl you was tripping and playing small”

But, look at you in the ebbs and flow of the strong woman year, you held onto your peace and that is celebration enough.

Maybe this year  that strong woman had no other choice but to be strong because  her world was crumbling . That word “strong “ can be so powerful yet triggering.

I was thinking and also challenged myself to  show my gratitude for the everyday woman that is me. The one that experiences it all yet holds steady to her anchor of peace, faith and joy.

 Yes our moms, aunties, good girlfriends, siblings , grandmothers, our village HOLD IT DOWN! But, you do also.

I wanted to spend time with the woman, the woman I am at 34 and what it has shown and taught me. Strength looks different everyday. Some days I shock myself at how focused ,passionate and outgoing I am and some days I struggle to let little vulnerable me have her days. Days where she may need to cry and unfortunately grab the chocolate to calm her nerves. The woman I am learning to embrace every single day. 

The woman who doesn’t always have the answers or the strength and all she wants to do is nap! 

I wanted to sit a little longer with that woman

And maybe you do too.

Maybe ( or maybe not)  you want to sit with 

the woman you see as yourself that maybe everyone doesn’t get to see. The woman who is experiencing every human emotion possible in the most beautiful yet chaotic way. 

The evolved women inside of all of us who unconsciously and consistently  hold the space for us when we can’t find the space for our conscious self. 

For women's history month, I want to celebrate and embrace experiencing the complexity  of being a woman ..a black woman and all that it brings. 

Everyday we  won't feel strong. 

Everyday we  won’t feel like being in charge.

Find the moments where you can embrace the complexities of womanhood with grace , peace and ease.

This is…

For the woman who for the first time is feeling at home in her body.

 For the woman who may not feel “home” today  but, she is dedicated to feeling closer to that feeling everyday.

For the woman who is discovering that rest and joy is indeed hers.

For the woman who is discovering that sleep is NOT for suckas.

For the woman who has recently experienced heartbreak, death and grief and is unsure she will ever feel like herself again .

For the woman who has broken up with old outdated perspectives/viewpoints and is now emerging into a deeper more meaningful way of being.

For the woman who  will cuss you out and pray for you.

For the woman who will knuck if you buck and cry after.

For the woman who has gone through the extreme dualities of being a human and unsure if she can embrace a side of her that has been silenced for so long.

For the woman unsure of what she is unsure of but , shes following her intuition more everyday.

For the woman who is unapologetically rediscovering the little girl inside of her everyday.

For the mom finding herself and her rhythm again everyday.

As much as this letter is for you, it is for me also.

We are strong but we are also full growing evolving women who deserve to experience other emotions other than being “strong”.

You are..

A woman who has real feelings. 

A woman who is allowed to show vulnerability 

A woman who is allowed to cry 

A woman who is allowed to be frustrated, confused , sad , joyful, sexual, restful and ratchet.

And when you break, may you always  remember that  you're not broken.

In every emotion no matter what it is, may you find the strength in you ..whatever that looks like.

..take care of yourself 💕